Men’s Therapy

Aside from men who come into counseling with their wives or girlfriends for couples counseling, I find that many more women avail themselves to counseling than men.  What I appreciate about men who arrive for individual counseling, is that they usually mean business!  The men who get in and stay in counseling until the problem is resolved, are far more courageous than their brothers who refuse to give therapy a try.  Men tend to be very objective and to the point about solving their problems.

Many women will tell you that their men do not talk about feelings and avoid talking about their wives feelings as well – this would be termed “avoidant”!  In actuality and according to professional research, men may be even more emotional than women, and more tender when hurt.  They also tend to show the majority of their emotions with anger.

The Anger Umbrella which covers over the more vulnerable feelings is a primary emotional tool for men.  Have you ever heard a man say, “Well today I’m feeling a little insecure, a little hurt, a little afraid, pretty depressed”?  Most likely, no.  A more normal display of feelings would come with angry displays or angry words.